'Just 'cos he looked at your cookie doesn't mean he's the one!'
I wish I had actually said that out loud.
Like every abused woman contemplating whether or not she should leave, she believes him when he says, 'Natural birth is Plan A,' (even though the numbers say otherwise) and she believes that this time it will be different. 'I'm not like those other girls,' she says.
Like the teller at the bank who can recognise a counterfeit because of years of experience with authentic bank notes, so a provider with experience in physiology can recognise a problem before it becomes a problem.
|Everything looks like a nail...|
If you want surgery, you hire a surgeon.
Otherwise, find someone who understands the difference between dealing with disease or trauma and supporting a physiological function.
Everything looks like a nail if you have a hammer in your hand.
But this is not the point I want to make. Where should your loyalty lie? With your care provider? I'm not so sure. Like I said, I'm not convinced the feeling is always mutual. You are one of many. In short:
The axe forgets, the trees remembers.
What is best for you, the motherbaby unit? Are you being treated as an individual or a number? A person or a potential litigator? An rational being or an irritation? Are you a participant or a patient?
If you need a second opinion, get one. Don't stall for fear of offending.
Do what it takes to get the options and opportunities that you and your family deserve.
Whatever you do, remember that just because he looked at your cookie, it doesn't mean he's the one!