tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post1935639697895822617..comments2024-03-17T00:32:38.965-07:00Comments on Diary of a Durban Doula: Just 'cos he looked at your cookie...Leighhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-71248197890499151522015-03-03T01:54:12.110-08:002015-03-03T01:54:12.110-08:00Ah Namreen, I hear your disappointment. We all do ...Ah Namreen, I hear your disappointment. We all do our best with what we know at the time! But it is all the more reason to share the information we wish we had at the time!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-26130725513836876652015-03-02T12:36:01.116-08:002015-03-02T12:36:01.116-08:00Wish I knew more when I had my kids... stuck aroun...Wish I knew more when I had my kids... stuck around and succumbed to 3 C-section from simple lack of knowing better.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07937370112210543248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-56104436531464041782015-02-08T10:11:51.981-08:002015-02-08T10:11:51.981-08:00I think that is the hard part - asking the hard qu...I think that is the hard part - asking the hard questions. It feels a bit too much like confrontation. But it sounds like you are in a good place to do that. I think maybe I need to do a post on what are some good questions to ask!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-9336662759880675832015-02-08T07:15:37.211-08:002015-02-08T07:15:37.211-08:00So important to take responsibility and inform our...So important to take responsibility and inform ourselves! The midwife for my first home birth said she has only attended 3 births that she has not intervened in any way. Next time around I would like a much more hands off midwife attending my birth, I would like to take as much time as I need to birth my baby and not feel rushed, I would like no internals (unless I request it), no pitocin, coached pushing or episiotomy. I am not bitter about it (they were just doing what they do) but i do consider myself more informed and am excited to see how any future births unfold taking full responsibility for my choices. Ask the hard questions of your care providers and know what you want and if you have a doula, KNOW her, feel comfortable and supported around her, try build some kind of relationship with her because there is nothing more annoying than having more strangers than necessary attending your birth.Simonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10496133861032719835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-13631175688943053652015-02-08T05:39:25.718-08:002015-02-08T05:39:25.718-08:00This is exactly why I stayed with my first gynae! ...This is exactly why I stayed with my first gynae! He helped me get pregnant. Thought I should stick with him. I knew he ALWAYS did episiotomies and wasn't happy about it, but I liked him so I stuck with him. But after a checkup and asking him his views on a vbac, it was so much easier to 'break up' with him. I went to him for my progesterone script at 8 weeks and then told him I wasn't coming back, and I was planning a midwife assisted vbac at Genesis. He tried to make me feel stupid... I left feeling empowered!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10784668432079543397noreply@blogger.com