tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post2305506782834664472..comments2024-03-17T00:32:38.965-07:00Comments on Diary of a Durban Doula: Obstetrics - Bastion of misogynyLeighhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-88376323191540200622015-10-08T00:17:02.463-07:002015-10-08T00:17:02.463-07:00I still have not come to terms with it, I still ha...I still have not come to terms with it, I still have a lot of anger about what happened. Hopefully it will improve as I deal with it little by litte, but it has definitely motivated me to want to change things.<br />Keep on with this!Madgurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150088595474185212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-77507797101419224992015-10-07T06:51:21.898-07:002015-10-07T06:51:21.898-07:00Thanks for your encouraging words! I think many wo...Thanks for your encouraging words! I think many women who train as doulas and midwives do so out of a strong conviction that there is something better than what most women are settling with now. The more women there are who have positive birth experiences, the more women will not be satisfied with horrible ones!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-1414731043222831592015-10-07T04:15:23.670-07:002015-10-07T04:15:23.670-07:00Thank you so much for this powerful piece. Had tea...Thank you so much for this powerful piece. Had tears in my eyes, and wanted to have a good cry, but have company over.<br />Touched me so deeply, and brought up my traumatic birth experience of my gorgeous daughter.<br />I am very strongly thinking of doing midwife or doula training as well as lactation training, do not want other women to be bullied or made to feel incapable.<br />Modern medicine definitely has its place, and has indeed saved many mothers and their children. But the need for intervention is in fact the exception and not the rule, while we are continuously being told it is the other way around.<br />Please keep on fighting!<br />And thank you again!Madgurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150088595474185212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-27224441196470764712015-10-06T21:16:34.233-07:002015-10-06T21:16:34.233-07:00It is frustrating when there are so many other fac...It is frustrating when there are so many other factors at play, usually unrelated to the particular laboring mom and baby present...Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-14784488861446501052015-10-06T21:14:37.405-07:002015-10-06T21:14:37.405-07:00That is wonderful! We must celebrate those individ...That is wonderful! We must celebrate those individuals, and encourage them!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-27029623203351695122015-10-06T08:35:05.416-07:002015-10-06T08:35:05.416-07:00Gosh, reading this list has made so grateful that ...Gosh, reading this list has made so grateful that I had a great experience with my gynae. Melanie B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16364864080351469761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-1235805360019228552015-10-06T08:01:50.165-07:002015-10-06T08:01:50.165-07:00As a doula and woman who has given birth, I have e...As a doula and woman who has given birth, I have experienced this. Sadly, males and females display misogynistic practice. Given that some midwives do not embrace doulas and women-led practices and decisions, it is unsurprising that some (many?) OB/GYN practitioners continue to embrace a historically misogynistic obstetric practice. Many manipulate women into believing their wishes will be honored and at the last minute throw in the dead baby tactic or the authority of being medically trained. Research and stats are ignored in favor of sometimes outdated practices that lead to numerous interventions that become increasingly destined to render the woman's wishes null and void during her labour and delivery. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02346145879329323839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-56220829117928387242015-10-06T03:40:17.539-07:002015-10-06T03:40:17.539-07:00I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. I am so p...I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. I am so proud of you for taking this on.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13706271256160776236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-24143018492046760622015-10-06T02:46:32.317-07:002015-10-06T02:46:32.317-07:00I think the next hurdle is overcoming the bit abou...I think the next hurdle is overcoming the bit about 'But it's for your own good.'Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-87458643813997502062015-10-06T02:21:30.694-07:002015-10-06T02:21:30.694-07:00Well done. "until someone calls them out, the...Well done. "until someone calls them out, the abuse will continue. "Living and Growinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02706294213583428589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-70621307861649733072015-10-06T02:17:17.502-07:002015-10-06T02:17:17.502-07:00I hear you! I feel the same way. But one thing is ...I hear you! I feel the same way. But one thing is that even though I am speaking about a misogynistic system - it takes individuals within that system to bring change. Maybe that is part of your role?Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-23891810729897668452015-10-06T02:15:39.770-07:002015-10-06T02:15:39.770-07:00I'm hoping women will read the post and recogn...I'm hoping women will read the post and recognise the signs early as you were able to! I'm so glad you had a doula for support. I think your comment also shows how there needs to be a shift in training. I know 'routine' can be helpful in making sure you don't leave out something important, but routine interventions are not always in the best interests of the mom and baby...Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-20110629398342119372015-10-06T01:50:30.340-07:002015-10-06T01:50:30.340-07:00I'm desperate to become a midwife (in the UK t...I'm desperate to become a midwife (in the UK though we may move back to SA one day) and these situations worry me, the established norm is hard to breakGeeGeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12561397717345765315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-45449431061289394462015-10-06T00:02:22.251-07:002015-10-06T00:02:22.251-07:00I changed gynaes at 16wks, the first one was horre...I changed gynaes at 16wks, the first one was horrendous! Pretty much said all of the quotes above and then some. We wanted a home birth and she scared my hubby out of it! Luckily my doula recommended another and she was much more open to natural things, but still very much stuck in the medical world. I had a wonderful birth with my midwife, bit weirdly enough she also tried to push certain medical "necessities" on me... But overall it was great.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05869390747700548730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-86757147584253101492015-10-05T21:42:23.735-07:002015-10-05T21:42:23.735-07:00Thanks Laurette... When I first made that connecti...Thanks Laurette... When I first made that connection and checked the list, the blood just drained from my face and I wondered how I hadn't seen it before! I'm trusting this can help someone to break free of the cycle. Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10288737862531034254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871893003690539378.post-85599566878079966902015-10-05T13:35:52.327-07:002015-10-05T13:35:52.327-07:00A powerful piece!A powerful piece!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09853192398036415476noreply@blogger.com